Failure to Launch Syndrome and Addiction
Do you have a child who is experiencing difficulties in the transition to young adulthood because of addiction? Are they struggling with co-occurring mental health issues that seem to have put this next phase of life on hold? Your young adult child might be going through what is known as “failure to launch syndrome.” A better understanding of this developmental barrier of young adulthood might help you become a more recovery-supportive parent.
The Syndrome and Its Symptoms
You might be looking forward to your child’s coming of age after formal schooling. Young adulthood is a critical stage for individual independence, but not everyone is ready to face its unique challenges.
For whatever reason, your child may have lost the motivation for continuing education or entering into the workforce. It may seem that other young people of their age are excited to explore new freedom away from their parents, but yours could prefer to continue a dependent lifestyle. The worst part is that your child’s happiness in life has been gradually diminishing because of substance addiction.
What is usually referred to as the “failure to launch” phase of young adulthood describes this less-than-ideal or disappointing situation when you find out that your child simply cannot cope with the responsibilities of adulthood. They can be compulsive, selfish, and opposed to any extra accountability on the behavioral level.
They also may not know how to take good care of themselves. Emotionally, they are too fragile to endure more stress than they are already processing. They could have a habit of staying up late, using drugs or alcohol, and feeling emotionally flat. In some severe cases, addiction has worsened their physical and mental health.
Analyzing the Causes
Behind this combination of behavioral problems, deeper causes have led to this young person’s lack of motivation in life. Children do not naturally develop “failure to launch syndrome.” By the time they reach the age of 18, many are eager to leave the nest and taste independence. Their young adulthood is vibrant and unstoppable. However, for those who are unable to progress towards responsibility and independence, what has gone wrong?
It might be time to honestly re-examine the dynamics in your family life and even your parenting style. Have you been overprotective? Sometimes, overprotected young adults tend to have inertia by extending their adolescence. Due to a lack of coping skills when faced with challenges, they fear the unknown and procrastinate on maturity. Parents who have become used to shielding their children from hardship may have enabled and reinforced their dependence on home support.
Has your child suffered from traumatic experiences that could have stalled their emotional development or even caused some mental health issues? If a young adult has had trauma-related mental health conditions from a younger age, it is likely that the unresolved issues can worsen with the increasing demands of adulthood. There is usually an intense lived vulnerability within this child. Anxiety and depression might also complicate the mental state so much so that they cannot function socially.
Addiction worsens pre-existing, trauma-related mental health problems. Many parents tend to switch between two extremes: from overprotection to overly disciplinary actions. However, a parent’s inconsistent involvement typically does not help the situation. On the contrary, it will only make things worse. To a young adult living an addictive lifestyle, the home is also a source of relationship-related stress and anxiety, triggering their addiction to become a downward spiral.
Intervention and Treatment
Young adults with addiction are a vulnerable group to struggle with failure to launch syndrome. They generally have a higher rate of mental health conditions related to substance use. It can be difficult to know which risk factor comes first (trauma or addiction). However, effective intervention and treatment always need to use a combination of methods to address the physiological, mental, and emotional issues.
First, early intervention is always more beneficial. Many families have seen their young adolescents beginning to use substances. By the time parents can detect signs of addiction, a child usually has used drugs for a while. If their physical development to adulthood is still ongoing, the effects of substances on their brains and bodies can have lasting and damaging consequences.
Whenever you notice changes in a child’s behavior and mannerism, you need to be alert enough to check if these are initial warning signs of addiction.
Secondly, because failure to launch in young adulthood is such a complex problem, and your direct handling might trigger more conflicts and stress in the home, it might be best to seek help from a professional interventionist.
You need to have confidence that young adults with addiction and mental health conditions can recover with multi-layered therapeutic intervention. Still, it would be best if you worked with experienced professionals to begin the process. Services might involve initial assessment, family counseling, parent coaching, recovery coaching, and a customized detox treatment plan for your child’s needs.
Do you feel at a loss on how to help your adult child who is experiencing failure to launch syndrome? This mental health problem is widespread, but very few parents have the awareness or knowledge to help their children because of its complexity. You need to seek the help of interventionists and health professionals in determining the root causes. At South Florida Intervention, our professionally trained interventionists have helped many parents and their young adult children heal from failure to launch syndrome. We have also encouraged and coached parents onboard towards this goal. Our commitment is to connect you with trusted health professionals who have plenty of experience in this area. Apart from recovery coaching and parent coaching, we also offer detailed case management. We can also provide a sober escort service for people who are in early sobriety. With our support, your child will have an excellent chance of achieving personal and emotional independence. Call us at (202) 390-2273.