How Do I Rebuild My Identity in Addiction Recovery?
Have you lost a positive social identity as a result of addiction? Are you struggling with negative self-talk so much that it interferes with your recovery? Do you want to grow into a new identity that is self-affirming and conducive to long-term healing?
Rebuilding your self-image and positive identity is a big part of recovery. This is a time you need to pause and examine what has happened to you in the past and what you aspire to become in the future as a person. Some people may find this very challenging, but most professional recovery coaching programs encourage, it because it can significantly boost your chance towards sustainable recovery. Researchers also find that rebuilding a positive social identity can be a pathway out of addiction.
What Has Addiction Done to My Identity?
Do you remember some happy moments from your childhood? Think back on a time when you were physically and emotionally healthy before using alcohol and drugs. What did you think of yourself then? Most likely, you felt good about yourself and were comfortable with engaging in social relationships when addiction was absent from your life.
When did that begin to change? For some people, traumatic events may precede and in some way increase their risks for using drugs and alcohol. However, most people living an addictive lifestyle can testify that their sense of self-identity changes after addiction becomes hardwired. Furthermore, the relationship between low self-esteem and addiction can be a co-occurring one. Substance use has been considered by society – including those suffering from addiction – to be stigmatized.
Social isolation can significantly decrease your sense of belonging, which is an indicator of positive self-identity. Social shunning by friends and family can turn many experiences into painful rejections. At the same time, addiction may bring new friendships on board, and many of these new relationships are based on the common interest in using drugs and alcohol. You may still have people to hang out with, but becoming part of this stigmatized group does not help with a positive self-image. A related poor sense of self-worth can arise, further diminishing the desire to quit.
Can Negative Self-Identity Be Salvaged?
Negative self-identity may lead to low self-esteem and low self-efficacy. Over time, you might notice voices popping up in your head, saying things like, “Do you hate yourself?” “Are you good for anything?” “Why are you so weak?” and “Are you stuck and unable to get out?” These negative self-talk patterns can become worse with the effects of drugs and alcohol, as these substances reshape the brain’s chemical structures to produce compulsive and depressive moods.
In other words, drugs and alcohol may turn your previous healthy self-identity into a negative state of mind. The damage of negative self-identity includes depression and suicidal thoughts. For a person to recover, their negative self-identity needs to be reformatted through counseling and therapy. Medications may help as well, in many cases. In fact, many treatment programs have designed plans to address some of these mental and behavioral conditions.
Improving self-esteem and rebuilding a positive self-identity is a core component of recovery from addiction. You need to believe that this later acquired negative self-identity is not natural. Knowing this can motivate you to reverse its course.
How Can My Self-Identity Transition From Addiction to Recovery?
Similar to how it was a big transition for your self-identity to go from sobriety to addiction, the transition out of addiction also means plenty of changes. Especially when your addiction has hurt other people, like your family and friends, it can be especially challenging to get past this experience. The first step is always self-compassion and self-care. Tell yourself that once you start detoxing and treatment, it is also time to unload the emotional baggage that traveled with you.
Self-care begins with being kind to your body and mind. Quitting drugs and alcohol is a milestone to celebrate. Be affirmative to yourself about small victories. Work with health professionals during your treatment and plan out each day for your body to recuperate. Relearn healthy diet and exercise habits and integrate relaxation and fun activities into your daily routines. Strive to sleep for enough hours so that your body can rest well.
Meanwhile, practice kindness to your mind and emotions. Try out mindfulness and medication exercises each day for at least ten to fifteen minutes. State positive messages to yourself every day. You can also keep a journal. Writing down your emotional ups and downs during recovery is a good way to stay in touch with yourself. That sense of in-touch-ness is essential for self-care.
When you feel that both your body and mind are recuperated to a better level, try to engage in meaningful social relationships. You might want to repair some broken relationships with family and friends. Or you can make new friends who live a healthy, sober lifestyle. The key is to watch your stress levels and avoid overdoing it. Consider self-honesty and humility two key principles in guiding your social life in this phase of early sobriety. Do not think you are strong enough to overcome all relationship difficulties yet – but you are beginning on a path towards a hopeful direction.
Are you struggling with negative self-identity during recovery? Do you know that boosting self-esteem can be an effective pathway out of addiction? What can be done to help a recovering young adult to rebuild a healthy self-identity? Recovery coaching by working with experienced interventionists can be very effective for these situations. At South Florida Intervention, our professionally trained interventionists have helped many teens and young adults recover not just from addiction, but low self-esteem and negative self-identity as well. We know the importance of this task for long-term recovery. We have also encouraged parents of those in recovery towards this goal. It is our commitment to connect you with trusted health professionals who have plenty of experience in this area. Additionally, we offer detailed case management and provide sober escort service for people who are in the early sobriety stage of their recovery. We are here to help, and you can trust our expertise. Call us at (202) 390-2273.